#48. How Are You? Fine?
Let’s be kind to everyone we meet,
with love every soul do greet.
We never know what internal demons they fight,
the nightmares they endure day and night.
There’s a science and an art
to soulfully communicating.
When next you’re out and about
relating and connecting,
know without a single doubt
that to someone you may be a tower
A beacon, a haven, a needed lighthouse.
So communicate with heart, soul and power
With a spirit of deep caring and true sharing
Be there in the moment
Present in their presence
Pay attention to the silence
Keen attention to the words
Spoken and unspoken
Formed and formless
As you listen more and talk less
Hear the thoughts ruminating
The forbidden whispers of pains
Circling round in heated brains
Pregnant, never to birth until death
Pay attention to the gestures
To the tone, timbre and textures
See their soul’s truth reflected in the eyes
Watch the dilation of the twin windows
The hidden pain lurking in the shadows
Before this pain spirals into a darker shame
Depression wears a lovely smiling mask
She’s layered up in her disguise,
She’s always fine, upbeat and nice
Last night, she was the life of the party
And today she’s positively upbeat and chatty
She always said she felt great and was ‘fine’
But now we know denial is the deadliest of all sins
For ‘F.I.N.E’ could mean so many different things
F -Feeling Frustrated and F*cked up,
I -Insanely Insecure and Invisible,
N -Negatively Numb and Neurotic,
E -Extremely Exhausted and Edgy!
Indeed she was her version of fine
And we never saw the glaring sign
We’d thought her sleeping peacefully on a warm bed.
Until we found her cold body, dangling, hanging, dead!
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